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Moms, the Movers and Shakers of the world

I am currently reading the book, recently published by the daughter of famed feminist, Gloria Allred.   I HIGHLY recommend it for anyone raising a daughter.  The background on feminism is extreamly interesting and it really makes me think twice about what my grandmother and even my mother has gone through, that I take for granted.  

Women are obviously very important people in our society and we should celebrate this role and the advances that we have made and continue to make. 

Research shows that the people who are forming the minds and hearts of the world are Moms.  This information is not surprising to me, living the roles of the mother and teacher.   We have the greatest impact on our children, more than any other factor.  In the past, research showed that socio-economic factors played the greatest role in "student success."  Now were are learning that the single greatest factor in student success in school is the Mother's background, including education level.

As I am only a chapter into the book, I will update this post with more thoughts as I venture onward.  

On that thought....   Anyone who buys the book, share your thoughts on it....  I would love to discuss it!

Passing on your Passions

While listening to an interview on Oprah today (sob, that she is wrapping up her show!  I am a huge fan), Rob Lowe talked about his family.  I was pleased to hear a great conversation about Rob's greatest passion, reading and writing.   His family talked about how his interest for words has been instilled in his children.  His son said, that the time that he enjoys spending with his father are the times that they are spending together reading or working on writing.  http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Rob-Lowes-Family-Video
 
As parents we hope that our children pick-up on our positive passions. As I type my daughter sits across the dining room table (partly just to be nearby me) and is coloring, narrating about her colors, counting her markers and periodically drumming with them.  These are all interests that she has picked up from her mom and dad, since we have modeled these behaviors with her.  As parents we must use our position as a parent and role model to both pass on positive ideals and avoid the negative.  

Too often, while working with parents in the position of a teacher, they have told me that their young child, maybe as young as first grade, will be bad at math and hate it, simply because they, themselves, hate and do poorly with math.   This simple, yet common example sends a message to their children.   The message is clear, it is ok to fail at this even before you have tried.  Is it ok, to make excuses for your children to help them avoid something that may not be very pleasant?   This is just my thought for the day.  

What are some ways that you can share your passions with your children?

• Model a positive attitude towards their activities
• Share your interests with them and make them kid friendly
• Get excited about their interests and nurture them

What does our family do, to share our passions with our daughter?

• We have nightly rituals of reading and sharing books.   We also take "special trips" to the book store and library to find new ones.
• We find out what interests her and get her involved (today it was the cute little pots o fseeds at Home Depot that caught her eye, while I was searching for my spring veggies.  She has checked out the seeds in the window at least 3 times today.  Instead of telling her that she is silly, I get excited too, and we look to see if there have been any changes.  I have, however, reminded her that it will be a few days until we see sprouts!)
• We give her opportunities to learn about new activities.   If she finds it difficult, we encourage her to keep trying, since it will get easier with practice.  We also help her to understand the value of learning something new and the other  things that can be gained from the activity, be it exercise or meeting new friends.
 

What have you done with your children to show excitement about learning something new??

Kind Kindle

I am SO very excited to share a list of FREE books from Amazon that you can upload for free (even if you do not have a Kindle, there are many ways that you can still upload them to a digital device)

I have found several mom/ parenting/ kid friendly options! 

This is not a book review, like many of my posts are, these are just free books!  (Maybe in a few DAYS these books will be reviewed!)


Enjoy!




















WHO doesn't love food!? OH, I LOVE food!
While, I do not LOVE cooking, it is great to have cookbooks around!  : )
























Well the topic of this BLOG is FREE after all, so how about fugal, that is almost the same, right!?? These sounds kinda old fashioned but maybe still interesting.  Maybe it will provide an insight into why are mothers and grandmother are/were who there were.  MAYBE it will just help us appreciate modern luxuries! 


































How about a  little fiction reading about parenting?














Fun to read TO your kids:













I KNOW I have a little POST baby weight to lose!  : )













Is it interesting to read the other side of parenting too:

Communicating with Preschoolers

While reviewing YET another resource for parenting preschoolers, I watched the DVD, Happiest Toddler on the Block, I found another great set of tools for communicating with my toddler. 

As always, I LOVE sharing my ideas with you, so here it is!  It is appropriate for parents of a one year old, through 4 years old.  

What parenting books, DVDs and sources do you rely on?

Emotional Epiphany

Sitting in the auditorium filled with equal numbers of children ranging in ages from 2-6 and their parents, I watched as my daughter's bright blue eyes widened and her smile grew.  She was watching the approach of a musician that she has watched hundreds of times on YouTube and a handful of times on Noggin', playfully slink up to the front of the stage.  It was hard to miss this lanky, tall man that seems to be about 7 feet tall with his crazy gray hair that stands on end.  Dan Zanes was wearing his trademark orange suit and carrying his guitar.   As his first song stared, one that we have loudly belted out together many times in our car, her jaw dropped and my eyes welled, up and that is about all that I saw of my daughter for the next five minutes. 

OK, I will admit it, I am the type of female that enthusiastically shares my feelings.  I emote, like a ripe zit.  You KNOW when I am happy/ mad/ sad/ angry.  I will also admit that I am full of the extra potent, 35 weeks pregnant hormones. 

I had one of THOSE moments today. It was one of those instances when I remember why I am a parent.  When I bought those tickets nearly 10 months ago, I knew our family would have fun.  I didn't realize how influential today would be on my child. 

Up until her bed time, she had not stopped talking about the time that the two of us danced in front of the stage, during the song "Catch that Train".  As we cha-cha-cha'ed by, she waved to him and he waved back.

She also can't stop talking about the moment she met him.  After the show she said she wanted to say good-bye to him.  The smart entertainer that he his, his whole band stood in the lobby of the Mondavi Center, and greeted, signed autographs and took pictures with their fans.  Of course my phone decided to go crazy right before the show as i was turning it off, so I did not have my camera on my phone available.  I am not worried, though as she will have that moment where she approached him and said, "Bye-bye!  Thank you!"  and he said, "Wanna high-five?"  She joyously slapped his hand.

What a great day!

My first blog on this page, about a month ago, reminded us to think, "What is our goal as a parent?"   Today was just another reminder that I can help my child create positive memories of most exciting events, as well as the most simple of events.  Today just happened to be a very exciting day.  I was the happiest making her so happy.

Musical Moods

Our family is in the mood for music.   Actually we are always listening to music, but today will be a little different!  After a few days of feeling cooped up in the house from the drenching rain, we are heading out to the Mondavi Center (in Davis, CA) to watch one of our favorite performers for kids, Dan Zanes.  There are a few favorite musicians that everyone in our family enjoys, so I thought I would make today's Blog a review of our favorite kids' music that my husband and I can tolerate too!  If you have a kid under the age of 10, you should get to know Zanes!   He does a lot of cover music, which the parents will be familiar with (think musicals of the past, such as Annie and Music Man).   He is a lot of fun, and the whole family will enjoy his music.  Search Amazon.com for dan zanes

My personal overall favorite is probably The Laurie Berkner Band. Maybe it is a feminine thing, though.    The music is fun, fast and the lyrics are original and witty.   Our family's favorite song is probably the Dinosaur song, but Victor Vito is probably a close second!  Search Amazon.com for the laurie berkner band


As a teacher of literacy, I closely examine music that also has connections to literacy for my children.   It is important that children are sent to school with a common background knowledge of fairy tales and nursery rhymes.  The teacher will rely in this background knowledge to teach other skills.   For this reason, I have to endorse the Wee Sings music series. As a family we only have a few of these, but I really love them for their content.  They are presented in a story format and include classic childern's songs that you and your kid will love!  Search Amazon.com for wee sing

Ready Readers - Quizative Questions

WHO? WHAT? WHERE? WHEN? WHY? HOW?  These words are my daughter's most frequently utilized words.  Maybe I should rephrase that, these are the words that my daughter uses to drive her parents crazy on a DAILY basis!  While, yes, her constant questions easily drive me up the wall, it is hard to get upset about it, as I know that her little mind is always clicking and ticking. 

Any  parent of a child over the age of 2, can use this developmental stage to begin to help their child become more involved in literature. The word here is MODEL.  SHOW your children HOW to ask questions about a text that you are reading.   In addition to this list of question words, start working on concepts of story grammar and vocabulary.   Talk to your children about who the CHARACTERS are in the story. USE the work CHARACTERS.  Talk about SETTING, PLOT and even what happens in the BEGINNING, MIDDLE, END and CONCLUSION of the story. 

You may be asking, WHY is it SO important that I use the terms, character, setting, plot, beginning, middle, end and conclusion?  Simple, these are appropriate terms for the parts of a fictional story. 

Before you start a book, take some time to look at all the pictures on each page and discuss what you see happening in the story (this is a classic techinuque used be primary teachers who are teaching reading, called a picture walk.)

• Have your child PREDICT, what will happen in the story.
• Request them to ask QUESTIONS, "like mommy does" about the story, using the question words.  You can offer a word to get them started.  "Use where to ask me a question about this page."
• If your child has been practicing letter names or sounds.  Use the pictures to help them identify letters, sounds or even words.  Your child finds a "cat" in the picture.  You can say:
• "cat stats with the letter c, can you find a word on this page that starts with the letter c?"
• or, "cat starts with the sound /c/ can you find the word that starts with the /c/ sound?"
• or, "can you find the word that probably says cat?"
• As you are reading continue to have your child ask questions, as though the parent is the kid or student.
• Also ask your child if they need help clarifying words that they do not understand.  Again, you can roll play this and pretend to switch roles.  You can be silly and have fun, you can turn to your kid and say, "Mommy, what does the word excited mean?  Can you please clarify that word for me?"

Have fun reading with your child and use your sense of silliness and sense of humor!  : )


Please share your reading ideas with us!  ALSO if you want more ideas or have any questions about these techniques please let me know and I will clarify information here and/or in future blogs! 

I love that I can use this blog to continue to help education children by educating their parents, too!  : )

Guiltless Engagement

Guilt is a mom's middle name.  We worry that we do not feed our kids enough veggies, that we let them watch too much TV, that we do not dress them cute enough, the list goes on and on!

Often as a mom, we have a hard time just trying to find time for ourselves.  

While my darling daughter does love to play, and plays well alone, I am often a little tentative about leaving her alone to play while I run off to enjoy a bath or to unload laundry.  More than once I have returned to her playroom sanctuary to find that she has dumped several of her board games onto the floor along with all of it pieces. 

A surefire way to prevent this is to tune into "Dora" and she will be mesmerised by the little girl and her monkey friend, long enough to prevent her from causing more chaos.  While she does get engaged into the show, including yelling commands in Spanish, I worry about the amount of television my little potato watches.

Today I had one of the most relaxing baths, that I can while my hubby is at work, and while she is still awake (I am starting to discover that those daily naps are disappearing!!).   She begged me to do YOGA while using a DVD.   These DVDs were purchased for my classroom of students several years ago, as a fun alternative activity that my 2 dozen youngsters can enjoy on a rainy day.  It has been a great parenting tool too! 
Her favorite DVD is the ABC one, which I also love!   Her favorite pose in the series she tells me is,
R for Rocking Horse," and then she demonstrates this pose that builds strong back muscles and confidence!  I CAN take a bath again,without being afraid of a mess that will be sitting in the middle of our playroom, when i return.  

Namaste'

Mommy, the Micromanager

I will admit it!  I have done it!  I have micromanaged my child's life, but I have admitted it, and that is the first step, right?!

Micromanaging parents are the ones who plan every minutia of their child's day.  They can also be defined as the parents who nitpick their children to death!

As all of blogs, this topic came to me, as I observed other parents with their children.  I watched as a mother and father hovered over their 2 year old like a rescue helicopter.    It immediately hit me, "Do I DO THAT???!"

Now remember, what I am NOT is judgmental.  I don't judge other parents for their actions and reasons for what they do. hey, who am I to judge?  I am a still a rookie parent, myself!  What I am, though, is a learner and a teacher.  I learn about the world, through watching others, and reading and researching children.  I then, in turn teach others about what I am experiencing, in the hope that I help enlighten my friends, or take a little stress out of your day!

SO, here are my thoughts on managing children.  Again, it goes back to your main goal as a parent!  (see my first post of the blog.)  If what you are telling your children to do does not relate to their  or another's health and well being, then it is probably not necessary.   In short, as my mother would say, "choose your battles."   If your child is doing OK and they will not get hurt or hurt another, then they probably should be left alone to discover and express themselves. 

Party girl Daisy, choose this outfit this weekend.  I got lucky on her choices!   Maybe that, or I have begun to buy all of her clothes to coordinate each other!  : )

So, I let my child choose her own clothes, as long as the weather permits her current "style."  After all what does it hurt if she is wearing a green top, yellow polk-a-dot leggings, and a purple tulle skirt?  She might looks silly, but who cares?   Most people will look at her and know, she IS a THREE year old!  

If you have not yet had the change to pick-up my current bible on preschoolers, then now is the chance!  I am not kidding with you, when I say that it talks about every possible situation that you will find yourself in. 


On the other hand, many of you have younger children.   Dr. Nelson, also writes books for that age too!

Maybe you really want to get someone else on the same page, as YOUR parenting, such as your spouse or a grandparent.   Buying them this book, is a great hint, and they will LOVE how easy of a read it is!  (My hubby has his own copy next to the bed on the night stand, as I type! I am hoping that it will work for us, and help us get on the same page!)

Nutritional Noshing

Young children snack all the time.  (Ok!  That is it!  No more words of wisdom!  DONE!)

All joking aside, beyond the 3 squares a day (or not so square if you are a toddler) your child can sit, stand, run and sleep while snacking throughout the day.

Careful choices on your part, as a parent can make them empty calories, or beneficial, nutrient rich calories.

My friend Michelle and I used to joke when our daughters were about a year old, whether or not they could sustain themselves on blueberries and breast milk.  Since Michelle was also Daisy's caregiver during the day (back in the day when I was a "traditional teacher" in a traditional classroom), she feed my daughter alongside hers.  The two cuties got into the groove of only eating the (ORGANIC!) blueberries that were given to them, and nothing else!  Luckily neither one of them had any crazy side effects, such as skin turning blue (as child would turn ORANGE if they only ate carrots!  True!). On the other hand if they only ate donuts and milk, then we would have a REAL issue on our hand!  Luckily donuts and other such food were never introduced as an option to their diet!

On that note, one of my equally as health conscience friends, Ginger recently raved about a great idea regarding her son's nutrition.  He is still 6 or 7 months old, so he is still in the category of a limited diet, as many infants still are, and should be.  She concocted a teething biscuit that she believes he likes, and eats heartily,and that she feels comfortable feeding him.
She sent me the recipe below:
she informally titled them:

DELISH BISCUITS
Preheat oven to 425
1c flour
1c baby cereal
3TBS oil
ICE Cold Apple Juice about 8oz (I juiced mine fresh and then added the pulp too)

Mix flour, cereal, and oil, then slowly add the cold juice until a dough forms and begins to pull away from the bowl. Roll flat, cut into shapes, bake about 25-30 minutes.
(thanks for sharing Ging!)     : )

As you may have noticed, I emphasized the fact that the produce that I serve to my child is organic.  I am very careful that I choose such an option for my child, as produce that is "labeled" organic tends to be a little more trustworthy, as far as farming practices.What is sprayed on and around the produce is monitored a little more carefully, this contributes to the health of the soil, water and humans.  I am also lucky to live in the middle of California's agriculture land, so much of what I  am able to purchase is not only local but ALSO organic.  While my hubby, Mr. Penny-Pincher (and also a Science teacher,with a degree in environmental sciences, so he should KNOW better), often scoffs at me and my organic purchases, he cannot deny that our child is healthy and that an extra 50 cents for a basket of produce that makes me happy, is more than worth it!

If you are interested in the topic of toxins in our environment and how they effect us read:

Providing Power

Just a little out of reach, my toddler stretches up to grab the gymnastics bar during our weekly gymnastics "mommy and me" class.  What do most parents do?  Grab their kid and boost them up?  Not me!  I look at her and say, "Need a boost?"  In this case, a fist does the job.  I ball up my hand, kneel on the ground and say, "OK step up!"  She steps up on my hand giving her any extra three inches and she clasps onto the bar with both hands and flips her feet up to the bar to hang upside down. She smiles at me and says, "I did it!"  SHE  truly DID do it!

I will do it alone, Mommy!

After several years of teaching and as well as a few years as a parent I have acquired one belief that has stuck with me and has helped to form a philosophy of parenting.   I do not EVER enable my child.  In this sense, I NEVER take my child's (or students') abilities away from them.

You can think I am mean, but if you listen carefully how I give children power, you too might think differently about how you HELP your children (at ANY age!).

I am fearless!

As a teacher we talk about how children learn within their ZONE of proximal development.
Let's take a little bird walk with this one, and I will share an AH-HA moment with you:
One of my greatest prides and joys is in my life was  "the conversion" of my hubby from a self centered (OK he still is a little of that too, but...), "I only want to work a job where I can be alone in my solitude" arborist, to a well loved, talented MIDDLE SCHOOL (no doubt!) Science teacher!  HA! 
It might have been my well known, contagious energy for teaching and kids, that did, or it might have been a little of the 9 month work year jealousy (man was he ever wrong about that one!!), but at one point he decided to "become a teacher too!"  It started with a few hours a week of volunteering, to branching out to help my colleagues, then to becoming an occasional sub, and finally to enrolling in a credential program, that did it!

It was during one of these Theory or philosophy classes that he came home to tell me about his "AH-HA!"  His class was talking about the Zone of Proximal Development.   Life and education all of a sudden made sense to him.  The concept of children tuning our learning (or filtering information) when it is too easy or too hard for them was foreign to him. BUT IT MADE SENSE!

As parents, we know that we don't want to make things too hard for our child, for fear of them rejecting the objective, but too easy is just as detrimental to their learning and their psyche!  As adults we all know about this, we do not want a job that is "beneath" our abilities, and we really do enjoy a challenge that we know that we can carry out. 

How often do we do this to our children?   I cannot help but think, as a teacher HOW OFTEN students are let down when the bars a lowered for them.   What would have happened if I had picked up my daughter and carried her over to the bar and placed each hand on the bar, and then going that extra step, I swung HER legs up to the bar to help her hang upside down? She would not learn how to stretch her self to meet her actually abilities, and she would not get any stronger. Parents and teachers do this to children ALL THE TIME!  : (  It makes me very sad and frustrated.  Are you telling your kids, "it is OK, you can't do it, so I will help you."?

It has been my motto for children in my life, to say, you need to stretch or you will never grow.   Encouraging children to challenge themselves and for their caregivers to challenge THEM, they will INDEED grow.


Do you have a toddler in your care?   Here are some great examples of ways that you can include, teach and ask YOUR children to grow!

• Teach your child how to help themselves with daily tasks
• teach them how to drag a chair or stool to the sink to wash their own hands after using the bathroom
• have a special place where you store plastic cups and bowls (BPA-free of course!) so that they can get their own sip of water, or bring you bowl when they want a snack of cheerios
• make these plastics their responsibility while unloading dishes (my daughter has been helping with her plastics since she was about 15 months old
  
• Give your child many opportunities to try something new
• if you sign your child up for a new class or offer a new task, positively encourage them to keep trying and the routine itself will be a learning experience.  
• stop a task before it gets too repetitive or before they get tired of it
• do not create a situation that  you cannot easily assist with (too difficult)
• do not act as a scapegoat if your child is not in harm's way
• give them a helping inch not a mile!
• create routines that are age appropriate (my daughter is expected to clean up toys as she completes playing each one of them, she knows that all her art supplies go back in their storage unit, with a drawer for crayons, one for markers, one for paper, etc.)
• 

Give your child POWER and do not take their ability to grow and achieve away from them.  

Do you have some ideas how you give your children the POWER to learn and grow?

Ready Readers - Picture perfect (coming soon)

Ready Readers - Learning Letters

As parents, who are always looking for ways to give our children any advantage to become more ready for Independence, we are all interested in ways to make our preschoolers more ready for their first experiences of school. 

As a teacher with years of experience in early literacy and with working with children in the early grades, I am most concerned with my child's readiness for learning how to read.  There is a direct correlation of students who are early readers with their future success in school.  That being said, I would like to share with fellow parents some simple tricks to get your child engaged in learning early literacy skills.

While many articles will tell you that all you need to do to get your child ready to for Kindergarten is read TO them.  I agree with that, as children should LOVE to be read to and LOVE books. Exposure to books with do that!  I will offer some great ideas for helping your child learn literacy grammar, in a later post.  This one is much more rudimentary: teaching your child their alphabet. 

When I was a student, Kindergarten was ALL about the alphabet.  Each day we would learn a new letter, draw and color pictures that had the same initial sound.  Now your kindergartners are expected to learn all 56  letters (upper and lower case) early in the year.  They are now expected to apply that new knowledge of letter sounds to begin to sound out CVC (consonant-vowel-consonant) words, like cat, tin, and pit. They are also expected to begin to identify the most common 50 sight words (words that cannot be sounded out using conventional rules).  Finally they begin to use their new-found knowledge to begin composing their own sentences. 

Firstly, I will tell you that honestly, young children are VERY capable of learning how to read and write at the levels that are expected to in their classrooms. Secondly, children will be even MORE ready if parents take the basic steps to HELP to prepare them for these high expectations.

Here are some simple ways to begin to expose your child to the alphabet.

• Starting at age 1, begin singing the alphabet song to and with your child.  This is not as difficult for them to learn as you would think.  By this time in their life, they will have become very familiar with the tune as it is the same tune, as the all time favorite, "Twinkle, Twinkle"
• Start teaching letters as objects and shapes.  Your young toddler can identify animals by name, letters are the same thing. They have distinguishable shapes and features that will help your child to recognize them.
• Choose letters that included in your child's name.
• Choose letters that are very similar in both upper and lower case (o, s, m, n, p)

Here is how you start introducing letters as shapes.  Purchase a set of lower case magnet letters for the fridge. 

• Play with the letters, arrange them, talk about their color, the shapes, (curvy, straight, etc)

Next time you curl up with a good book with your child, choose one of those simple letters (o, s, etc) off of the fridge and have them hold them while you read stories.  Occasionally have them play "I spy" while looking for that letter.  Call the letter by name.
Point out the letters that you have exposed them to, in your daily environment (I will NEVER forget the day that my daughter, not even 2 years old, yet shouting out in the car. "Mom, daddy, I see the letter s! letter S!"   She saw it on a sign on some building.  A majoity of our waking hours are spent as just mommy and Daisy, so I was pleased that my husband was along to witness her brilliance, first hand!  

Soon, as your child starts to learn 10 letter names or so, invest in a letter/ picture chart that you can hang on the wall.  Your kid will love their new "toy" and you will love helping them sort the pictures into the pockets. 
It is likely that your little one will be able to identify the pictures, but soon they will start to recognize the initial SOUNDS that they hear and they will connect them with the letter names.  Early on, kids will start to HEAR the letter sounds in the letter names.  "Snake starts with /s/,  it sounds like "essss". 

If you have any fun ways to share with us, how you help your child to learn their letter names and sounds.  I have not yet touched on the topic of having your child use writing implements to practice their new letters.  This will also be an upcoming topic, as well! 

Terrific twos, threes and fours

Looking back, I KNOW that we skipped the terrible twos and we are still avoiding the terrible threes. Don't get me wrong, we have had a tantrums and struggles, but the terrible "every things" have been avoided.

I am hardly bragging, as I know that it still might happen, especially with the new baby coming in about 8 more weeks (plus or minus two!).

I DO want to share with my friends of children that are nearing their twos that one of the things that I believe is that communication is key. I know that this sounds trite, but teaching your children to communicate with you, at a VERY young age will help to lessen the tantrums.

At a very young age Daisy was communicating with me (and NO I am not one of those parents that guesses until I get it right, either).

As many "Davis" parents I started off with baby signs with Daisy at a very young age (it was hard not too, as one of the researchers and authors of this topic lives and works in our community).   We started with the basic needs (eat, done, milk) at about 5 months.

Soon after, she was saying those words on her own.  As you will read in the book, that the key is to begin asking them to sign back, instead of anticipating their needs.  As you feed them, for instance, saying "more" and signing it, and then asking for them to ASK for more.  They will GET it very quickly!

In addition to baby signs, it is important to talk to your babies all day long.  I know that it sounds strange, but actually narrating everything that is going on, is the perfect way to do teach vocabulary.

Be careful to vary your verbiage as well.  Think about the daily routines that you do and what you explain to your child each day. Now, each day add a new word into the context of the situation that they can start to pick up.   Try "dispose of trash" instead of "throw trash away", or "munch, chop and chew" instead of "eat" food.  Obviously, the options are endless.  This concept can be applied throughout their lives.  (This evening, as we waiting for dinner to finish up, Daisy and I were reading a version of Goldilocks, and Baby Bear, used the word ravenous to explain how hungry he was.  I EXPLICITLY taught her her this word, instead of letting her just "absorb it."   I said, "Look there is another word for hungry, ravenous.  Let's tell Daddy that we are hungry but let's use ravenous, instead."  We then stopped and turned to him and each complained about our empty tummies and how ravenously hungry we were. 

Researchers of vocabulary development have determined that homes where parents talk to their kids at the dinner table and read to them on a regular basis have been exposed to a much greater vocabulary than those that do not do those things.  There is also a strong correlation between parents' education and the child's success in school, specifically reading. Looking toward the future, the poorest readers in classrooms are those with the most limited vocabularies. (take a look at the research on this website if you are interested in more info:

http://reading.uoregon.edu/big_ideas/voc/voc_what.php
Young children who can express their needs to their caregivers are often less stressed and less frustrated.   These children seem to understand the world around them, as well as reasoning.  Reasons why we do not act certain ways, reasons why things are, the way they are.

I just wrapped up a quick conversation with Daisy this evening.  As she has gotten older, things such as bed time have gotten easier.  I told her it was time to get ready, and she used the classic, "but I am having fun playing right now," excuse.  I reminded her that she does not want to be tired for preschool tomorrow, to which she shrugged and said, "you are right, I am going to go get ready now."  DONE!    Communication, and the ability to understand and comprehend are keys to easier parenting.

Mommy reading to Daisy at 3 days old!

So add reading to your child, to that list of daily to dos!  It really helps to make it a part of the routine.  In our family daddy and mommy each read a story to Daisy before bed.  (I will offer great techniques to help your child be ready to BECOME a reader in upcoming blogs).

Mommy Moments

There are moments within each day, amongst the pouting and the Kindle being tosses across the room like a Frisbee, that I am SO proud that I am a parent.  More specifically, I am proud of the child that my daughter is becoming. I would like to think that I have a part in her strong character.  Today's moment came at 7 am, when she crawled into bed with me.  "Mommy, I slept good last night!" as she gave me a kiss on the cheek.  "I am happy that you slept well, honey." was my semi-grumpy reply (it was too early for my taste!) "I slept good because I do not like sleeping with diapers."  This was her 3 year old way of reporting to me that she had, had a her fourth diaper-less night in a row.  It was not the fact that I no longer had to deal with and purchase diapers for her, that made me so proud at that moment, but it was how this moment came to be.

As I alluded to a few sentences prior, I DEEPLY value my sleep.  Sleep deprivation, has been, in fact, the HARDEST part of being a parent, frankly.  The last step in her potty training that I was avoiding WAS bed time.   Earlier this week, as we were preparing for bed, she declared, "I am NOT going to wear diapers to bed, anymore!  I am a BIG girl!"   This was NOT a concept that I had planted into her brain, nor had her father.  I was actually surprised. I even tried a little of the "are you sure? do you want to wake up with wet pants?" dialogue too. She had made up her mind. "I am done," was the last thing she said before she went to sleep.   This is just one of many moments of her independent character that I attempt to take credit for.

Partially Perfect Parenting (coming soon!)

Openly Optimistic

I have been called optimistic to a fault.  Maybe you would even characterize it as naive!  I would like to think that the world will turn out fine and my children will be ok.

I do realize, though, that living in the moment and not looking toward the future can lead to a future of regrets.  So I am always trying to do the best for my children (even in the unborn state) as I can.  I will admit that I spend too much of my income on books, (ok my personal education, in general!). These books are always found stacked on my night stand, and next to my bath tub and under my coffee table, throughout the house.
As I start to ponder what the future holds, I realize that I can effect my future today.  SO today I learning ALL that I can about my pregnancy, and my preschooler.



When I write in the blog each time, I will be sharing with others what I am learning and how my children are benefiting from what I am learning.  I will always recommend that others pick up the books (or upload if you have caught the Kindle bug, as I have) and read the whole thing, but I am going to be sharing my applications of what I read, as well as the high lights. I hope that you find them beneficial.


As a teacher, I am lot like I am as a parent.  I am always looking for another idea, more research and  better strategies.  I often took those ideas and incorporated them with my own ideals.  When I came across this book, I KNEW it was a must read.  I have read others my Dr.Nelson and was very impressed.  I still believe to this day, that I was hired for one of the best schools in my school district after citing this author  during  my interview. 

The book is written in a very accepting and positive tone.  Parents will close the book each night feeling empowered and  will appreciate their child for the learning stage that they are in.  Each topic is enlightening and increases confidence as a parent. I LOVE that it gives specific anecdotes about children at all ages, 3-6 years old. 

First Blog

Well, here I am!
I decided that it is time to share my parenting adventure with the WORLD, so I might as well utilize technology and do it!
I haven't really decided what I will post each time, except that I have those AH, HA! moments and want to share with others!
In the past decade I have worked with kids in many capacities, teacher, coach, principal,tutor and most recently as a parent.  ALL OF A SUDDEN all the pieces are starting to fit together!  I see my 3 year old, darling daughter as an on-going product of my own life lessons, and I am happy with who this is little smarty is becoming!

I am also about to start this process AGAIN in two months, and I cannot be more excited!  THIS time I am going to be having a BOY. I know that I will have to re-read one of those books on Gender issues, since the only males that I am used to are my dad, and husband.  BESIDES teaching them, boys are kind of an enigma in my mind!

Purpose of Parenting

"Mommy, help me, PUH-lease?" my 3 year asks on a daily basis.  Yes, as the title may indicate, we have many purposes as parent.  I often try to remember what my main purpose IS, as I move through my day.

As parents we make innumerable decisions within our day, that concern our children.  These may range from the mundane, such as when to make for dinner to the routine, such as getting ready to get out the door in the morning. BUT what is the goal of us, the big people, in these little one's lives?  Is it to teach them how to become legendary baseball players?  Or is it to make them happy smiley little humans?While both sound like great goals,  I have determined that my goal is neither, directly.

My main goal, as a parent, I have determined, is to simply, raise a human that is an independent, self motivated person, who others want to be around.  Or, simply to create an independent person who makes logical decisions.  For every trip that our family takes, class we sign up for and each day we live, I continue to keep in mind this important goal.

I would be interested to hear what you, my friends think.  What is your most important role as a parent?